“How many people were there?”  This is a question being asked in thousands of churches this week.  Holy Week and Easter meant as many as four major events in four days for many church leaders.  Maundy Thursday, Good Friday, Easter Vigil services, and then Easter morning, with some having both sunrise and traditional morning services.  I hope you and your loved ones had a wonderful Holy Week and Easter celebration!

In the 25 years I served as a pastor, I remember how church staffs would often look this week at the “numbers” from the last week of services.  How many people attended this year?  After the years of Covid, where people’s in-person attendance habits changed, are we seeing a return to “pre-pandemic” times in our services?

In this month’s newsletter, I want to look at some other numbers.  

60, 19, 73, 54, 75, 65

Lottery numbers?  I wouldn’t try them if I were you!

No, they are both numbers that reflect the need of providing care for pastors and other non-profit leaders in this time, and some numbers of gratitude from me!

The first four numbers come from a webinar I attended several weeks ago called, “The State of Pastors,” by the Barna Research Group.  First, 60%–refers to the percentage of pastors reporting that they are doubting their sense of calling to being a pastor.  The last few years of leadership have caused many to wonder about their sense of vocation.  19% refers to pastors who now see a mentor or other support person (including counselors, therapists, spiritual directors) several times a month…this is down from 37% in 2015.  73% of pastors report being emotionally and spiritually exhausted “frequently” or “sometimes,” while 54% report feeling lonely and isolated.  Clearly, there is a great need for leaders to have someone to safely share their struggles and to come alongside the loneliness in leadership.

The last two numbers are “my numbers!”  75 is the number of people that are currently supporting me financially in this new season of helping leaders become whole.  I am so grateful for the individuals and families that have said “Yes” to helping me offer coaching and care for free to these leaders through Standing Stone.  And 65% is now where I am in monthly support!  Thanks to many of you and your generosity, I am well over halfway towards my goal to provide for me and my family.  I am looking forward to reaching the “full-funding mark”, when I can devote all my time and energy to meeting with and caring for leaders.  

I am now serving with a ministry called Standing Stone, which has aimed for twenty years to provide a space for free, confidential coaching and care for pastors, ministry leaders, and leaders of every sphere. Standing Stone believes that healthy leaders need companions on their leadership journey, and that healthy leaders will lead healthy organizations that help transform their communities. You can learn more here: https://standingstoneministry.org/shepherd/burke-david/

“It sounds as if you’re more like the Queen of England.”

A coach for pastors told me about this phrase and phenomenon. With all due respect to the departed Queen, God rest her soul, the “Queen of England” moniker is when leaders are asked to play performative roles, but not expected or wanted to lead the institution or organization. We have others terms for this—“figurehead,” “mouthpiece,” and “leader in name only.”

I chose the picture above because it shows the singular swan, swimming amongst others…Canada geese. As I watched these birds that day, I remember watching how no one was paying particular attention to the swan. The geese swam around in their group, and kept to themselves. Over time, the geese swam off into an entirely different body of water, and the swan was left alone.

I found it interesting to later learn that mute swans were brought over from other parts of the world to decorate estates, ponds and lakes. Consider these words:

All of the Mute Swans in North America descended from swans imported from Europe from the mid 1800s through early 1900s to adorn large estates, city parks, and zoos. Escapees established breeding populations and are now established in the Northeast, Midatlantic, Great Lakes, and Pacific Northwest of the U.S. (https://www.allaboutbirds.org/guide/Mute_Swan/overview#)

Swans in North America were decoration. Much like some leaders may be decoration for an organization or institution, mute swans find themselves now in natural settings, but are not native to that land. You have to wonder if some of the native birds in our rivers and lakes keep their distance from these “decorative” neighbors, instinctively knowing, “You’re not from around here, are you?”

I found it interesting that the AllAboutBirds website referred to these mute swans as “escapees.” When the mute swans “escaped” from their estates, parks, and zoos, they established themselves in other environments. I wonder how many leaders wish to escape their present environments, tired of “adorning” their organization?

I recently watched a “State of Pastors Summit” put on by Barna Research. As of September 2023, 33% of pastors surveyed were considering quitting ministry, and 60% were doubting their sense of calling. 75% of C-Suite Executives, managers, and employees in July 2023 were considering quitting their current role for a role that focused more on their well-being, according to a survey of 3,150 people by Deloitte. Admittedly, these statistics may not be solely tied to leaders feeling like “decoration,” but we are seeing a great time of reflection and reassessment among leaders in the faith-based space and corporate world. Underneath these statistics may be a prevailing sense of wanting to be cared for and valued.

In my last post, I spoke of Jesus teaching us to “consider the birds of the air.” This is what I’m learning by watching the swan. Jesus would go on to say that we are to see how God provides for the birds, so we can rest in the knowledge that we will be cared for as well—for we are of much more value in God’s sight.

The walks down by the American River here in Sacramento brought me time to reflect…and capture more photos of this singular swan. Pictures like the one above (I’ve got many!) show me many things. Last month, I mentioned the loneliness of leadership. 70% of pastors report NOT having someone they consider a close friend. (Barna, 2023). Harvard Business Publishing reports that same 70% among new CEOs.

Harvard Business Publishing noted that more than 70% of new CEOs report feelings of loneliness, a sentiment not exclusive to them but prevalent across various leadership levels. Loneliness is particularly acute among individuals newly promoted to leadership positions. The implications of such loneliness are profound, likened to the health impact of smoking 15 cigarettes a day.  (From the Perceptyx blog)

The importance of having someone walk alongside us in leadership cannot be underestimated. To have someone listen to us when we feel “muted” is crucial. I have learned that this swan is a “mute swan,” so named because it is less vocal than the aptly named “trumpeter swan.” It is not that the mute swan is completely silent. It is simply “less vocal.” For me personally, that phrase resonates. Moving from speaking nearly every week to hundreds of people to a posture of listening has already made me notice several things. The rise and fall of adrenaline in my body has changed. (Though I have still had dreams of getting up to speak and not being prepared—that raises my adrenaline!).

Something else I have recognized is this: how much I have relied on my many words—even in my family—to bring about change. I have believed that if I just have the opportunity to explain myself more, use the right metaphor, illustration, and tie it all together with a powerful story, that everyone will see things my way! Being ‘less vocal’ might also be a good posture for leaders in general. To listen first, be “slow to speak,” and not rely solely on leadership by voice may be what is needed in this moment.

I have heard from other leaders throughout the years, and experienced myself, the feeling of being “muted” in leadership. Whether it is not knowing how to lead with clarity, or trying to speak for what needs to change and it coming across wrong, or being misunderstood, leaders in every sphere can feel muted.

The work I am aiming to do among leaders has a certain silence about it. That is, because it is confidential care and coaching, I cannot share all the details of stories of this ministry. For these reasons and many more, I think God might have placed this mute swan on this little body of water to get my attention. After all, wasn’t it Jesus who said, “Consider the birds…” 

I am now serving with a ministry called Standing Stone, which has aimed for twenty years to provide a space for free, confidential coaching and care for pastors, ministry leaders, and leaders of every sphere. Standing Stone believes that healthy leaders need companions on their leadership journey, and that healthy leaders will lead healthy organizations that help transform their communities. You can learn more here: https://standingstoneministry.org/shepherd/burke-david/

On the day I first saw the swan, I was entering into a time of transition. After 25 years of serving as a pastor, I was stepping away. I had just announced to the staff and elders of the church that I was serving that I was sensing an end to my time there, and moving into something new. The “something new” was a pull towards what a spiritual director told me earlier that year: “a longing for the hidden work of deep discipleship.” Every part of that phrase resonated with me. There was definitely a longing in me. I sensed it would be more of a hidden work. That is, in contrast to what I had been doing, often being the up-front communicator and leader, this new work would be more unseen. One-on-one meetings in coffee shops, restaurants, or offices. And I have always believed that deep discipleship most often comes through those meaningful conversations and relationships over time where questions, fears, thoughts, doubts, and insights can be shared, challenged, refined and held. We see it as Jesus spent time with individual disciples and the community of disciples. I would come to interpret the words of that spiritual director as a returning to what I loved: listening with care to others describe where they were in their journey of leadership—whether that leadership be in the church, their work, their home, or family.

In this time of transition, I felt like that swan. While some understood this change of vocation, many did not. I also remember telling my co-workers that, while I had then three months left with them, already I was feeling not as much a part of the team. They would be continuing the work I had been a part of for more than nine years (and this church’s work in this city for 150 years!), but I was going to swim in different waters. I couldn’t see everything in my future clearly, and saw many things dimly. Nearly four months later, several things I felt more certain of have already disappeared from view.

As I saw the swan, swimming alone in that portion of the American River, I reflected on a larger loneliness of leadership. I had been in a group of other pastors that met yearly, and one of the things we frequently talked about was this: that no one really understood what it was we did. And that groups like that one was a balm for our souls, because we didn’t feel alone there. For a couple of days, we shared our joys and struggles, laughed at each other’s stories, wept with one another in our pain. The harder part came when we returned home. Yes, we could call one another, but we weren’t WITH one another in the same way.

What would it look like to have someone do the same thing with us where we were? That is what began to take root in my mind and heart. As I watched the swan swim alone, I thought of how many leaders were swimming alone. I wanted to help, starting by practicing the art of listening for the loneliness of leadership.

I am now serving with a ministry called Standing Stone, which has aimed for twenty years to provide a space for free, confidential coaching and care for pastors, ministry leaders, and leaders of every sphere. Standing Stone believes that healthy leaders need companions on their leadership journey, and that healthy leaders will lead healthy organizations that help transform their communities. You can learn more here: https://standingstoneministry.org/shepherd/burke-david/

What is His Name?

“Mary will bear a son, and you shall call his name Jesus, for he will save his people from their sins.” Matthew 1:21

Names were important in the Bible.  Often they associated someone with their family heritage.  God often told the prophets to name their children as a message—Isaiah named one of his children, “A remnant shall return.”  Here, an angel tells Joseph to name this child Jesus—which means “The Lord saves.”  

There are three questions we’ve looked at so far in this Advent series:  

“How can I be sure?”—asked by Zechariah

“How will this be?”—asked by Mary

“Where is he?”—asked by the Magi

These are the questions of our neighbors, co-workers, and classmates who may not know of Jesus, or are not seeking to follow Him.  Let’s recall:  before any of us took a step of faith, we wanted to be sure, we wanted to understand how it all works, and we wanted to know where to go.  The questions asked in the Christmas story are our questions too.  

The “what” of the name Jesus answers the “Why.”  God sent Jesus into the world to save.  Some of us might feel we don’t need saving, but we do.  The things we’ve done and said, the things done to us that we can’t fix.  The things we regret and have left undone.  All of us need rescue from the rumination about what might have been.    

This Christmas season, let’s remember the name—His Name is Jesus.  Let’s remember the why.

Grace and peace,

David

“Where is he who has been born king of the Jews?” Matthew 2:12

“Where are you, God?”  This might be one of the quintessential questions of the human condition.  We ask it in times of uncertainty and sadness.  We ask it in times where we need wisdom and assurance.  We ask it because we cannot see God face-to-face, or we cannot feel His presence.  

The Christmas story records this question too.  But the people asking it WOULD indeed see God face-to-face. It is a group of Magi—traditionally called Wise Men—traveling from another country and culture, asking where they can find the newborn king, so they can pay homage and present gifts to Him.  They literally wanted to know the place and time.  And they found Him, lying in a manger.  The Magi glimpsed the good news of the gospel—that God Himself would come to us in Jesus Christ from the heavenly places, giving up glory and experiencing the joys and sorrows of being human.  He came to save us, and it all started in an unlikely place.

Let’s be honest:  in the busyness of this season, it can be easy to lose sight of God.  It is possible to fill our calendars and to-do lists with so much that we might ask, “Where is God in all of this?”  

The answer is:  you can find God in the story of Christmas.   God so loved the world that He sent His one and only Son.  Born in Bethlehem, born in a manger.   When humanity was crying out to find God, God came to find us.  

Grace and peace,

David

Mary asked the angel, “How will this be?” Luke 1:34

The Christmas story is unusual. Last week, I wrote about God doing something out of the ordinary with Zechariah and Elizabeth, the couple who would raise John the Baptist—the one set apart to prepare the way for Jesus. Now, God sends an angel to Mary.

With Mary, we get another question in the Christmas story. “How will this be?” Or, “How can this happen?” Mary goes on to literally say, “Since I have not known a man?” There is a “usual way” of a child being conceived and born. God chooses a one-of-a-kind way. God’s Holy Spirit will “overshadow” Mary—the Greek word is a word that also gets used in Acts 1:8–“You will receive power when the Holy Spirit comes upon you.” Then, to emphasize the unusual ways of God’s work, the angel tells Mary that her relative Elizabeth is going to have a child, even in her old age. As if to say, “God is doing a lot of strange things!”

Mary isn’t the only one to ask the question, “How can this happen?” In the gospel of John, there’s the story of a man named Nicodemus, who asks that kind of question, not once, but twice. Is it out of that conversation with questions that Jesus says these famous words: “For God so loved the world that He gave His one and only Son, that whoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have eternal life.”

Because we tell and re-tell the Christmas story every year, it can be easy to gloss over the unusual parts of the story.  We can miss the fact that the characters in the center of the Christmas story had real questions! As we share this story with our family, neighbors, co-workers and classmates, let’s not dismiss the fact that they might have questions!  “How could God become one of us?”  The “how” is certainly hard to explain.  The “why” is simpler:  Because of His great love for us.

Let’s not miss the wonder and miracle of all of this.  

Grace and peace,

David

“Behold, I am doing a new thing.” ~Isaiah 43:19

After twenty-six years of being a campus minister and pastor, I am about to do something new.

As of December 31st, I am stepping down from my role as Senior Pastor at Fremont Presbyterian Church, a role I’ve held since September 2014.

What is the new thing?
I want to help leaders in all spheres—the local church, ministries, nonprofits, and for-profit organizations—by providing free confidential coaching and care. I will be working with Standing Stone Ministires beginning in early 2024. @standing_stone_ministry has over 200 people serving 3,000 leaders nationally.

We all raise our financial support so we can provide this service to any leader, free of charge.

Throughout the various roles I’ve held, I have aimed to listen well, care deeply, and guide with wisdom. I know that leadership in all areas of life can feel lonely.

Earlier this year, someone said to me, “David, it sounds like you are longing for the hidden work of deeper discipleship.” I am ready for the behind-the-scenes conversations that help keep leaders healthy, and take people deeper into the knowledge and love of Jesus.

This link gives you an opportunity to donate.
https://standingstoneministry.org/shepherd/burke-david/

My hope is to have a team of partners with me in this ministry. Not just donors, but partners.

If you see the need for this kind of work, I’d love to connect with you and tell you more.

“Look, Lord! Here and now I give half of my possessions to the poor, and if I have cheated anybody out of anything, I will pay back four times the amount.” Luke 19:8

This week, we look at the story of Zacchaeus, whose short stature is the subject of many a Sunday school song and story! (Sorry if you just got that “wee little man” lyric stuck in your head now…if you know, you know). But Zacchaeus being short and climbing a sycamore tree to see Jesus is not the main point of this story. Jesus invites himself over(!) to his house, even though Zacchaeus’ role as a tax collector made him a hated figure in his town. Sitting at table with someone conveyed all kinds of messages.

In the story, we are not given any clue as to what motivated Zacchaeus to be so generous.  Was it simply because he was in the presence of Jesus?  Were there words exchanged between guest-Jesus and host-Zacchaeus that led to Zacchaeus’ repentance?  We do not know.  

What follows is a beautiful proclamation:

“Today salvation has come to this house, because this man, too, is a son of Abraham. For the Son of Man came to seek and to save the lost.” Luke 19:9-10

Jesus proclaims that salvation has come:  some scholars wonder if Jesus is referring to himself here, or if the act of repentance by Zacchaeus is truly evidence of a changed heart.  Zacchaeus is declared to be a part of a family—a son of Abraham. And then Jesus declares his mission statement—to seek and save the lost.

Zacchaeus teaches us something.  In the presence of Jesus, he is moved towards a generous heart, to repay whatever he has cheated, even four times more.  In the presence of Jesus, he hears that he belongs to a family.  In the presence of Jesus, he knows he has been found.

May we celebrate the grace and love of our Lord, and learn from Zacchaeus and his changed life!

Grace and peace,

David